Behaviour - Is it learnt or are we born with it?

"Some behaviours have to be taught before you do them. These are learned behaviours. You aren't born knowing how to respond in a classroom when a teacher asks a question. Raising your hand and waiting to be called on is something you learn from your interaction with the world. Learned behaviours include things like speaking in a specific language (for example, English or Spanish) or how you should eat in a restaurant. If you weren't taught these things through your environment and experiences, you would not know how to do them." - Study.com

For some time now I've been thinking about behaviour and two concepts - Innate behaviour and learned behaviour.

When each of us was born, we were born with certain needs such as love, warmth, joy, happiness. But then what about speaking, eating, walking? All of this is done through what we see.

If we know that, when we see people acting like us, we should ask ourselves one key question - What type of example am I setting? The children of today have learnt everything from what they see and observe and I am sure that most of what we do, we have either picked it up from our parents or those that we hang around.

So, the next question is this - The behaviour that we have learnt, can we unlearn them? Beforehand, I thought that this wasn't possible but now my belief has changed. Behaviour can be learnt and unlearnt. The way we can unlearn certain behaviours is to change our environment and the people that we are associated with.

Everything we say or do is governed by what we see people do and what they say. In positions of leadership and management, we need to be careful of our actions and how we come across. People learn from us and this is why we need to ensure our behaviour influences them in a good way

Let's influence people in a positive way.

#openthoughts - There's work to be done

On this very date last year, Brussels was the subject of a terrorist attack. It shook to the world to it's very core. In the follow up to that, I released a blog piece on fear and faith and how we need to have unshakable faith.

Today, about a year on, London was the subject of a terror attack as a police offer was stabbed at the entrance to the Houses of Parliament whilst on Westminster Bridge, around 26 people were mowed down by the car. I received a messsage on my phone via one of the disciple groups i'm part of. Looking at that, it took me back to something I pondered on. There is work to be done.................

I understand that the world can be a fast moving world and it's not always possible to keep up however the places you are in and the areas you live need work. For a long time, we as a nation have been sleeping, oblivious to what is going around us. There are things happening around us every single day but because we choose to be ignorant, we don't know what is happeneing.
It's time that we opened our eyes and unblocked our ears so we know what is exactly going on.

You may be thinking 'Well, what needs to be done' or 'would anyone listen to me'. Look outside your window, look on the TV, look on social media, look in the newspaper and you will see that there is work to be done.

9 times out of 10, people are waiting for someone to do something but what would happen if you got up and did something about it. The things you complain about is what you are called to fix.

Leaving college today, I went to starbucks with my friend so we can sit down and take in today's news. Whilst we were talking about it, there was a lady who was interested because she wasn't aware of it. It really showed me how we know so much but if we don't reveal it to the world, no one will be none the wiser.

You might be reading and be thinking that you don't have a role to play, but you really do. Wherever you go today, wherever you live. It doesn't matter abaout your faith, race, gender, background. This message is generic and is for anyone - There is serious work to be done

Folks, there is serious work to be done.

I pray that you are blessed by this. Message me if you feel provoked to undertake this work..........

#openthoughts - Play it safe

it's wiser to be cautious and careful than to be hasty or rash and so do something you may later regret

So, I was riding home on the 205 bus, a thought well it's more something my mum always said to me when I was young. 

'It's better to be safe than sorry' 

Back then, I never really understood why she said that. I honestly thought it was just a cliche but years later, the reality of it hit me for six. Yes, years later and I have finally understood why she said it. 

The phrase which I can relate it to is this one - 'Obedience is better than sacrifice'........... Let me explain why

There was a time when I had learned of someone's death and so I asked why it happened. I was informed that the person was involved in an accident and then it was said that the person wasn't wearing a seatbelt at the time which contributed to their death. At the time my first reaction was one of shock and then one of sympathy. 

When you get into a car, your first initial reaction would be to make sure your safe before you start moving and that would include wearing a seatbelt. I wonder sometimes that if the person had worn their seatbelt, might they of survived the ordeal? 

It's one of those situations where following instructions would be much easier than dealing with the aftermath, We live in a society where people are told to break rules and to live life on the edge and truth be told, it hasn't done them the world of good. 

There are times in life that we just have to take the word and live by it. It really is better to be safe than sorry. 

Instructions, Commands and Guidelines are there for a reason. Let's adhere to them and be safe. 

You don't want to have to apologise to someone for causing injury or harm to their loved ones. Do all you can to make sure you are safe and that everyone is safe. 

All around you, people will tell you to do things that go against what it says on the tin. You, personally, you must do what it says on the tin and get it right. 

Be wise, Be Safe and Stop living life on the edge. 

Love ya'll greatly